I think it is interesting to consider the roads not taken, and sometimes, to fantasize about the happy endings there. But if I am honest, I can see that all those roads had a few potholes as well, and some of them, so promising at the time, would have led to the worst kind of mangled unhappiness. So I would not trade in the life I have lived/am living for another. I have an awful lot to be grateful for. I’ve never been without a home, or food to eat. I’ve never been in the midst of war. I’ve been loved. Maybe this is “small”? IDK. It feels like enough, most of the time.
It's a motto I adopted on November 10, 2016 when I was afraid the world was ending. I have no idea what is coming next so best approach? Stay curious. Thanks for commenting.
Sometimes at night just before a deep sleep I think my Mother is in the other room. I want to go slip into bed with her. Ask her everything we don’t know what to ask until it is too late.. I still have her phone number in my address book, just in case.
If only Mothers and children could understand just how valuable that talk can be.
You asked a good question… could they tell the total truth?
Could we hear the truth? What if she really wanted to be single and childless?
My Mother had her major in history, a minor in Spanish and a Masters in math! Did she really want 4 little people needing her? Plus a husband who needed her even more than her girls did… well, her answer was that she stayed 50 years in that marriage and she was loved and respected in her community of teachers. She and my Father used to read to each other every night. They held the same beliefs.
She did tell me one time that she loved my Father for about 4 years. We didn’t sit down and digest that… I just wondered how she kept cooking every meal, and held her head up high so everyone figured it was a loving relationship. He did not abuse her physically. Occasionally he was unhappy and verbally said cruel things… but he too was smart and didn’t want to lose the best thing that ever happened to him.
I think it is interesting to consider the roads not taken, and sometimes, to fantasize about the happy endings there. But if I am honest, I can see that all those roads had a few potholes as well, and some of them, so promising at the time, would have led to the worst kind of mangled unhappiness. So I would not trade in the life I have lived/am living for another. I have an awful lot to be grateful for. I’ve never been without a home, or food to eat. I’ve never been in the midst of war. I’ve been loved. Maybe this is “small”? IDK. It feels like enough, most of the time.
Yes, I agree, Jana. To be safe, to be loved, to be healthy, to be able to contribute to the well being of others in the community - it is enough.
Thanks for reading and offering insight.
PS - this is one of my favorite posts.
"Stay curious". Thank you. 🙏🏻
It's a motto I adopted on November 10, 2016 when I was afraid the world was ending. I have no idea what is coming next so best approach? Stay curious. Thanks for commenting.
As Robert would say, "Gotta take the bitter with the sweet"....Pauline certainly did!
Robert also famously said, "Be happy in your work" and , by that, maybe he also meant your life. Thanks for reading and commenting, Noel.
Clearly you are listening, to write a post like this.
Well, I AM listening. Now to apply what I've heard.... thanks for responding, Mary. xxx
No life is perfect.
No one can change the past.
All we can do is make the best of what is.
Try to be better.
Exactly, Bruce. We do the best that we can, right?
Dear Graciewilde,
Sometimes at night just before a deep sleep I think my Mother is in the other room. I want to go slip into bed with her. Ask her everything we don’t know what to ask until it is too late.. I still have her phone number in my address book, just in case.
If only Mothers and children could understand just how valuable that talk can be.
You asked a good question… could they tell the total truth?
Could we hear the truth? What if she really wanted to be single and childless?
My Mother had her major in history, a minor in Spanish and a Masters in math! Did she really want 4 little people needing her? Plus a husband who needed her even more than her girls did… well, her answer was that she stayed 50 years in that marriage and she was loved and respected in her community of teachers. She and my Father used to read to each other every night. They held the same beliefs.
She did tell me one time that she loved my Father for about 4 years. We didn’t sit down and digest that… I just wondered how she kept cooking every meal, and held her head up high so everyone figured it was a loving relationship. He did not abuse her physically. Occasionally he was unhappy and verbally said cruel things… but he too was smart and didn’t want to lose the best thing that ever happened to him.
I think I’ll call her now .🥹😘🦋