I recently met up with my deceased mother in my dreams. We were standing together in the kitchen of the house where I grew up. I asked her if she would trade in her life for another. She scoffed. “Never,” she said. “Things might not have always been great but I would never give up what I had.” And that was the dream.
Sometimes at night just before a deep sleep I think my Mother is in the other room. I want to go slip into bed with her. Ask her everything we don’t know what to ask until it is too late.. I still have her phone number in my address book, just in case.
If only Mothers and children could understand just how valuable that talk can be.
You asked a good question… could they tell the total truth?
Could we hear the truth? What if she really wanted to be single and childless?
My Mother had her major in history, a minor in Spanish and a Masters in math! Did she really want 4 little people needing her? Plus a husband who needed her even more than her girls did… well, her answer was that she stayed 50 years in that marriage and she was loved and respected in her community of teachers. She and my Father used to read to each other every night. They held the same beliefs.
She did tell me one time that she loved my Father for about 4 years. We didn’t sit down and digest that… I just wondered how she kept cooking every meal, and held her head up high so everyone figured it was a loving relationship. He did not abuse her physically. Occasionally he was unhappy and verbally said cruel things… but he too was smart and didn’t want to lose the best thing that ever happened to him.
"Stay curious". Thank you. 🙏🏻
As Robert would say, "Gotta take the bitter with the sweet"....Pauline certainly did!
Clearly you are listening, to write a post like this.
No life is perfect.
No one can change the past.
All we can do is make the best of what is.
Try to be better.
Dear Graciewilde,
Sometimes at night just before a deep sleep I think my Mother is in the other room. I want to go slip into bed with her. Ask her everything we don’t know what to ask until it is too late.. I still have her phone number in my address book, just in case.
If only Mothers and children could understand just how valuable that talk can be.
You asked a good question… could they tell the total truth?
Could we hear the truth? What if she really wanted to be single and childless?
My Mother had her major in history, a minor in Spanish and a Masters in math! Did she really want 4 little people needing her? Plus a husband who needed her even more than her girls did… well, her answer was that she stayed 50 years in that marriage and she was loved and respected in her community of teachers. She and my Father used to read to each other every night. They held the same beliefs.
She did tell me one time that she loved my Father for about 4 years. We didn’t sit down and digest that… I just wondered how she kept cooking every meal, and held her head up high so everyone figured it was a loving relationship. He did not abuse her physically. Occasionally he was unhappy and verbally said cruel things… but he too was smart and didn’t want to lose the best thing that ever happened to him.
I think I’ll call her now .🥹😘🦋