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heydave56's avatar

I think personal evaluation like this is growth. For me, using introspection to slow down is not a rumination on what's been, but a contemplation on what is. Couple that with the awareness that all I can control is my reaction to situations, this becomes a rewarding new pace to life.

Good going, grasshopper!

Graciewilde's avatar

Thank you, Dave! I am always learning, always open, always curious. I so appreciate friends like you who share wise words.

Jean(Muriel)'s avatar

When you sent this I doubt you planned on talking straight to me. But, I saw myself in your mirror. Every single day of my working life was to challenge my ability of being perfect!!! I learned that at a very young age. The purpose was to win my Father’s approval. Forget breathing…. just focus on the egg shells I walked on each day. I took that well practiced purpose into every day of teaching, flying around the world, or guiding eighth graders on their journey to visit their city(Wash.DC).

Now , as you note, I have complete permission to breathe, put my feet up, concentrate on the bird in the tree or the cat sitting next to me, or to hear my husband expand on introspection.

It is a coming together of brakes and red lights. Just pay attention and go slow.

A gift if noticed!! Thank you for helping me notice so clearly.

Graciewilde's avatar

Thank you, Murie! Did I ever tell you that I was one of the chaperones on those 8th grade trips to Washington DC???? We flew from San Francisco to DC (and for some kids this was their first airplane flight) and spent a week in fast paced, lively, and SO much fun days touring the city. The leader of the trip was an awesome friend and his wife. They knew so much about history and about DC and they were so fun to travel with. He did those trips for maybe 30 years and I got to go along on six or seven of them. Best trips ever~

Jean(Muriel)'s avatar

I will probably know them. I will talk soon … it was a wonderful pre-retirement gig. Lined me up with students same age I taught in Calif. 7-8-9th grades. 8 graders were my favorite. ❤️

Switter’s World's avatar

Gracie, you always make me think and I appreciate it.

Graciewilde's avatar

Switter, you do the same for me. I hope you know that. Don’t stop writing.

Vision to Reality's avatar

I loved this post and I support your inquiry, have fun with it! t don't know if you are into astrology at all but part of my answer to your question about where I sit on this spectrum is that I am a double Capricorn with a Virgo moon meaning I have a strong drive to fix, and amend things. I spent most of my life that way. When working as a nurse co-workers would come find me if they had problems with equipment or their patients etc. because "you are good at fixing things". It was the same with my friends

One good thing about Capricorns is that they are born little old people and become younger as they age. So now that I am approaching the end of my 7th decade, I am wondering if I want to continue on this same path and instead of being driven to do things I could feel the pull of desire to do things, explore, discover what my true self would like and to become clearer about who my true self actually is. It's a process and I find it intriguing, certainty can be limiting, being in discovery can be expansive. So that is where I am now, in discovery and where will that take me and who is the true me that wants to be liberated and explorative!

Thank you for your post and the question you posed, It has stirred something in me that was on the periphery but not in my conscious mind as yet. I am so grateful it is now acknowledged and being explored!

Graciewilde's avatar

Thank you for the kind words, Penny. I am curious about astrolgy although about all I know is that I am a Virgo. When I was much younger, I was annoyed when I read the descriptions of Virgo. They always seemed boring and meh. However, either I’ve changed or the descriptions have changed b/c now Virgo is more likable for me.

I like the idea of becoming younger as we grow older but it certainly does take a special kind of person to be able to do that. I do think that I am growing and expanding every day and part of that includes a big dose of curiosity and exploration.

I’m happy to have opened a door of exploration and discovery for you!

Vision to Reality's avatar

There are many good things about Virgo, It’s always Venus who decides what is worth choosing, isn’t it – and everything else follows from that. So yes, Venus is definitely good!

Sue Cauhape's avatar

These days, sitting is my jam. My favorite chair. The swing in the garden watching the drama unfold among lizards and birds and whatever else rustles in the leaf mold.

Graciewilde's avatar

I hear you, Sue! My favorite "chair" is on a rock or log or the sand at the beach. It is so refreshing and peaceful to simply sit and be part of the unfolding.

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Graciewilde's avatar

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